tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post6803743829742314371..comments2023-07-01T03:21:08.226-07:00Comments on Nothing Less | Kellie: Tuesday ~ PJ's, Morning Breath and a Guy Who Liked Somebody ElseKelliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-85834877040494757222013-06-07T07:52:30.796-07:002013-06-07T07:52:30.796-07:00Amy, your comment and response has truly blessed m...Amy, your comment and response has truly blessed me this morning! I truly grow weary of the pressure to "be content" and to never show the fact that yes, as a single woman, I do (naturally!) long for marriage in a big way. And so your transparent response to this post (ie. my heart on my sleeve) is such a huge encouragement!<br /><br />Haha, and I have to chuckle, because I'm the SAME way! In fact, I was just pondering that this morning - how some days I feel like the single life is the life for me...and then some days I feel like I must be the bride of Frankenstein. I sometimes jokingly wonder to myself if I'm bi-polar or something, because I can go to both extremes. But that longing for marriage never TRULY goes away (and the fact that I notice every single guy who walks past certainly doesn't stop, haha!) and so, more often than not, I'm like you and so many other girls (refer to all the comments above!), having to stifle my longings for a physical love/affirmation/guy and "console" myself with Christ.<br /><br />And when I fully grasp Him in those moments...oh what a consolation! :DKelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-64160531394363344092013-06-07T07:06:09.195-07:002013-06-07T07:06:09.195-07:00Gosh..YES.
As a single woman who loves Jesus...YES...Gosh..YES.<br />As a single woman who loves Jesus...YES.<br />I KNOW i shouldn't feel those things (wanting a physical man to love me because God is and should always be enough)....but it's hard.<br />Some days i'm like "psshhh i'm a pro at being single and watching movies by myself...i even kind of enjoy it" and other days i look in the mirror and find myself believing satans lies "see...why would anyone want this"...gah so true. <br />THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for your honesty, for your frankness...for being bold.<br />You're not alone in the struggle, or in the path to remembering who God is and WHY He IS enough. <br /><3<br />New follower. Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06015897070916345752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-18672900373830362162013-06-06T07:57:29.911-07:002013-06-06T07:57:29.911-07:00Kara, I LOVE that thought! I'd never thought o...Kara, I LOVE that thought! I'd never thought of "imaging" God fulfilling those special longings like that before, but what a great thought. I'm a "visual learner," so having something to sort of "see" is something I always look for and this thought if fabulous. Thank you!Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-74342722752625109502013-06-05T23:13:47.899-07:002013-06-05T23:13:47.899-07:00Ah yes. Love your honesty Kellie. Because frankly ...Ah yes. Love your honesty Kellie. Because frankly it IS hard a lot of days. It doesn't get any easier the older you get. (Okay, I realize that sounds like I'm ancient when I'm not really. But go with it anyway? :) But praise God we have Him to lean on! Because you are SO right! He's huge and awesome and amazing and awe-inspiring, and loves us, loves ME so so so much. Thank you JESUS!! :) <br /><br />One thing someone told me a few years ago has stuck with me. Whatever you imagine wanting/desiring out of significant other, imagine God doing it. Like for instance, I love the idea of being wrapped in someone's arms. So when I'm feeling down, I imagine God wrapping me tight and holding me close. Does that make sense? Kind of sounds funny probably, but it does help! At least in my humble opinion.<br /><br />Thanks so much for your honesty and encouragement. Seriously. This is a lovely, lovely post and I'm honored with your bravery in sharing it with all of us.Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09590701834142754842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-16656884316748374692013-06-05T14:54:49.390-07:002013-06-05T14:54:49.390-07:00Gotcha, girl! And I'm fond of that song m'...Gotcha, girl! And I'm fond of that song m'self. :)Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-60642785409633619872013-06-05T14:52:54.607-07:002013-06-05T14:52:54.607-07:00I meant the way you worded it...not necessarily th...I meant the way you worded it...not necessarily that she had it...just to clarify...lol<br /><br />BTW, I love that song! (and Hunter Hayes for that matter)Madison Russhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010147478031425203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-40012653493685052582013-06-05T09:13:43.862-07:002013-06-05T09:13:43.862-07:00I know exactly what you mean, Julie! I was in a ve...I know exactly what you mean, Julie! I was in a very serious relationship, too, a few years back and came very close to marrying the guy, so I know what you mean - relationships are AMAZING but even they, too, can be a "fake" satisfaction. Even when we find that love of our life, God STILL is the only one who satisfies.<br /><br />Thank you for your perspective and your reminders! And thanks for not giving just empty platitudes of "it's worth the wait," etc...but for actually giving a valuable response from "the other side" of singleness. :) <br /><br />You rock, Julie. :)Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-35553044773881359802013-06-05T09:09:17.850-07:002013-06-05T09:09:17.850-07:00You have dreams like that, too?? Okay, good, glad ...You have dreams like that, too?? Okay, good, glad I'm not the only one who sometimes spend the first few hours of their days recovering from the emotional trauma of <i>waking up!!</i> :D <br /><br />And in return...I've been SO encouraged by your's and all the other girl's responses to this post! And it makes me wish that we all lived close to each other so that we could have some kind of support group...or just a place where we could feel free to just be honest and open with each other! Think of how much stronger we'd all feel, knowing that we weren't along, with others there to remind us of God's truth when we felt weak!<br /><br />Thanks for commenting, Taylor! And here's to dreams coming true, eh? ;)Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-61227611364815236512013-06-05T09:01:19.000-07:002013-06-05T09:01:19.000-07:00Ah, girl...the combination of your post AND this c...Ah, girl...the combination of your post AND this comment makes it so much more powerful! Because obviously you're "guy-less" for awhile and coupled with your oh-so-sad attempts to talk to him and then you're turn around and still sticking tight with God...girl, thank you! You're an encouragement to me today!<br /><br />Yah, I'm seriously wishing that we lived near each other! I'd share your chocolate and then bring some more. :D Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-19520031906244831492013-06-05T08:05:04.728-07:002013-06-05T08:05:04.728-07:00Rachel, non-creepy "stalkers" are always...Rachel, non-creepy "stalkers" are always welcome! :D But I'm so glad that you decided to "come out" and say something, that means quite a lot to me!<br /><br />I'm so glad that this post was meaningful for you and helpful! I know that in writing it out, processing thoughts in my head, was really important for me to do! Being single is tough (and since I've been in serious relationships before, I know that dating is tough, too, but that's a different category of tough altogether!) and denying my fleshly pity-party is also hard. But my head says to my heard that it's worth it. Because He's God.<br /><br />Thanks for your comment, Rachel! I hope you'll still be able to join us for our next hang-out!Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-3233475483717163942013-06-05T07:53:29.854-07:002013-06-05T07:53:29.854-07:00Anytime, friend. :)Anytime, friend. :)Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-43096484479619701932013-06-05T05:50:48.437-07:002013-06-05T05:50:48.437-07:00What a beautiful post! I am so glad that you were ...What a beautiful post! I am so glad that you were honest and didn't try to cover up any of these feelings you're having. And honestly? Being in a relationship is great, but there is a new challenge that when you DO have that love from a man it can make it a lot easier to let that replace the love of Christ. So that's something I struggle with while being in this relationship. It can make you feel complete when you really won't be complete without God. Just thought you should hear the other side of the story and how it's not all rainbows and flowers :) Thank you for sharing your sweet heart!Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11712255986329678684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-83921453105825263462013-06-05T05:39:55.031-07:002013-06-05T05:39:55.031-07:00Thanks, Kellie. I needed this. :)Thanks, Kellie. I needed this. :)Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10592919145644124930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-87535427912842752822013-06-04T20:50:17.311-07:002013-06-04T20:50:17.311-07:00Yes, yes, yes. Kellie, this post resonated with me...Yes, yes, yes. Kellie, this post resonated with me so much! I had a dream last night that I had a boyfriend and he was awesome and gorgeous, and he thought that *I* was awesome and gorgeous. Obviously waking up to reality after a dream like that was a little discouraging, so I mentally gave myself the whole “Jesus is way better than any boyfriend/husband” speech (which is COMPLETELY true, but still very hard to believe sometimes). Your post was so encouraging! Knowing in your head that other Christian girls also have their “weak “I-wanna-be-in-a-relationship-like-everyone-else moments is one thing, and hearing about it first hand is another.Taylerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01119897557205183869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-32844296675406335092013-06-04T20:25:00.320-07:002013-06-04T20:25:00.320-07:00Yeah...you know I know EXACTLY what you are talkin...Yeah...you know I know EXACTLY what you are talking about...because I've been there...for my last four years of blogging. What on earth. I so know. ...But still every day it's like I have to place into perspective what is most important in life. Him? Or God? Honestly YOU have convicted ME in this post...because I need to remember to put God first (seriously...as you can tell in my latest post full of woes { insunshineandshadowsmew.blogspot.com/2013/06/drugstore-visits-perspective.html }. God always needs to be placed first in our lives. HE shouldn't be the one pushed out into the wing (I do this far too often), or a last resort. He is never a last resort. Thanks for that lovely reminder. Sending tons of love and hugs your way. Wish you were here -- I'd share my chocolate with you and we could cry together and then remind each other what really matters. God. We are here to serve Him. Sending love your way! ~ MicahLittle Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15461337351903199178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-58727932550678092912013-06-04T20:01:00.532-07:002013-06-04T20:01:00.532-07:00Kellie,
Okay, so I've been a blog...not stalk...Kellie,<br /><br />Okay, so I've been a blog...not stalker, but "silent follower" perhaps?...for too long, and I decided I needed to break that habit. :) I've so enjoyed your photography and the way your love for family shines through. But even more than that, your honesty about your walk with the Lord just encourages me again and again. What you've written about singleness (and related) has helped me see some pretty significant holes in my own thinking. So...thank you!<br /><br />It was fun seeing you this weekend, too!<br />RachelRachel D.http://lifealongtheway.xanga.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-24155610001848775692013-06-04T14:49:59.899-07:002013-06-04T14:49:59.899-07:00Thanks, Meghan! And I'm curious to know your i...Thanks, Meghan! And I'm curious to know your input on that email. Sorta nervous about that, since it was definitely OLD material. :)Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-32570395856865108022013-06-04T14:34:10.278-07:002013-06-04T14:34:10.278-07:00Aww, Kellie. ::Hugs:: This blessed my heart, gorge...Aww, Kellie. ::Hugs:: This blessed my heart, gorgeous friend. {As well as your latest email which was amazing to read start to finish} As we've discussed before--neither of us are alone in feeling like this, & for me, & like you said here--it's another level of trust & intimacy in our relationship with our loving Father God as He continues to "wait in the wings" to give us the one guy He's been working on for us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-52390498869932911012013-06-04T14:00:09.210-07:002013-06-04T14:00:09.210-07:00I'm so glad that this post was encouraging to ...I'm so glad that this post was encouraging to you! It was therapeutic for me just writing it the other day! Being the only single left standing is tough and often the platitudes of "God has a perfect plan for you" or "it'll be worth it!" don't really help! But look at all those comments above, girl - we are FAR from alone! <br /><br />And so it's worth gripping onto the fact that He's really loving us even in the midst of being single. :)Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-43451106747074380952013-06-04T13:55:07.683-07:002013-06-04T13:55:07.683-07:00Whoo, girl, do I understand you! Those feelings yo...Whoo, girl, do I understand you! Those feelings you're struggling with are exactly the same I fight every day. It's hard to see all your best friends getting happily married (some younger than you) and you're still at home wondering when your life will actually begin. Yeah...I so understand.<br /><br />I needed to hear this today. You are SO right. I mean, the Creator of the UNIVERSE loves me unconditionally. What do I even have to complain about? Seriously. He has a beautiful plan for all of us and will love us FOREVER. Now that's beautiful.<br /><br />Thanks, Kellie, you really are a jewel.Christine Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15859881278385314279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-38991153588989023072013-06-04T12:34:42.097-07:002013-06-04T12:34:42.097-07:00Thanks for this comment, Francesca! In truth, the ...Thanks for this comment, Francesca! In truth, the concept of accepting the Lord as our affirmation and worth applies across the board to everyone - married or single, male or female. Everyone has something they want that others have, just like you said, even married women can feel "inferior" for various reasons JUST as much as single girls can! Thanks for that reminder and thanks for your prayers!Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-58639111267508687592013-06-04T12:24:02.147-07:002013-06-04T12:24:02.147-07:00Although I'm not single and am in a serious re...Although I'm not single and am in a serious relationship that will probably end up in marriage in a few years I can relate to what you're talking about. But I'm the odd one out because I am in a relationship. In my church there are mostly single young people. You can end up feeling like you're not spiritual enough because you are in a committed relationship that requires time and effort that everyone else is spending in ministry! I think everyone gets so caught up in what everyone else is doing and feels left out. I think girls single, dating, engaged or married need to remember that at the end of the day we are all just girls :) Praying for you sweet girl. I hated being single (heck I hate waiting to be engaged haha - I'm impatient can you tell?), I wish I knew how to be an encouragement without being the rub it in your face girl who tells you that it's worth the wait (I hated when people said that - it doesn't help that much while you're waiting). XoFrancesca Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13457495236785252634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-40699249138040910012013-06-04T11:50:05.895-07:002013-06-04T11:50:05.895-07:00Thank you SO SO SO much for this, Angela! And also...Thank you SO SO SO much for this, Angela! And also...THANK YOU for not just speaking platitudes and for understanding that all those often well-meant words don't always help! You're one of the FIRST married women who has acknowledged that and not given us single girls the God card. You're one rockin' married lady. ;)<br /><br />And truly, I'm so encouraged by everything you said. Thank you so much!Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-58356675636000538872013-06-04T11:42:45.224-07:002013-06-04T11:42:45.224-07:00Girl THANK YOU for sharing your heart. You are an...Girl THANK YOU for sharing your heart. You are an incredible lady and I know God has someone just as amazing out there for you... in His timing. I remember having these feelings and just feeling so alone and unloved while it seemed like all my friends around me were in serious relationships. It's not fun at all...and I can tell you over and over to trust God and His plan--but it doesn't really take away those feelings does it? I remember those vividly and I hatedddd them. You know what kind of helped? Talking or reading about people's experiences with the same thing. I know that tons of girls are connecting with you through this post, and you are helping so many wonderful girls' hearts in doing so... Just know that one day you will find your man, and one day you will look back and see how God was shaping you through these awful feelings you are having. It doesn't make right now any better, but one day it will all be worth it. "The struggle is part of the story." Very fitting.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16949788813395469120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-787323131254633449.post-60745276049623060732013-06-04T11:14:47.980-07:002013-06-04T11:14:47.980-07:00Kristin, thank you for such transparency right bac...Kristin, thank you for such transparency right back! That was gutsy and I appreciate it SO much! <br /><br />Yes, this whole issue is so rarely addressed, since to talk about it requires saying that we don't feel God is enough, which, of course, makes us look like a Christianity fail. Growing up and even in my late teens/early 20's/my idealistic years, I assumed that because God never let us down...that I, therefore, must always FEEL like He's never let me down. Well, at twenty-six years old, I can say that I have felt many times when nope, God did not feel like He was enough and yup, it sure felt like He let me down. <i>And I know I'm not the only one who has felt that way.</i> <br /><br />Having been a Christian basically all my life and like you, having read the books, heard the sermons, prayed the right prayers, I KNOW what the Bible says and I KNOW that it says He is enough. But on my average day, believing that is sometimes almost impossible. And most of the time, I don't even want to try to make myself believe it. Because it hurts so much to be the <i>left-overs.</i> A pity-party is better than nothing, right?<br /><br />I have a pretty good idea of how you're feeling, Kristin, since that's so close to exactly where I am, too! Sorta just giving up on it all. But lets hang in, okay? I know that there are days when just plugging on with a polker face is all we have...but then, somehow, someway, sometime...there is ALWAYS a day when maybe, just maybe...God feels a little bit closer than He has been and getting a taste of his "enough-ness" is a lot more real. That may not be today for you, but as I'm myself tasting the hint of it on my tongue, let me just throw out a little life-line that says <i>keep going.</i> If God is real (which we know He is), then He's constant. And if He's constant, then it means He's not gone anywhere. And if He's not gone anywhere, that means you'll see see Him (and His fulfilled promises!) again.<br /><br />If we lived near each other, I'd be calling you right now to set up a coffee date, where we can talk, vent, cry and pray. But for now, know that you're worth <i>so much.</i> True story. :)Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07285214309808207294noreply@blogger.com